On October 3, 2011, a 19-year-old infantryman, Danny Chen, died in Afghanistan. He was not killed by a barrage of bullets or an enemy explosion–but by the racist bullying of his countrymen and one “apparent self-inflicted gunshot wound” to the head. Last December, eight servicemen were charged with assault, negligent homicide and reckless endangerment of the young private. Now, we’re finally learning the details of exactly what happened to Danny.
NYMag.com has a feature on Danny that paints a picture of a smart, young, potential pacifist, drawn into the Armed Forces and conflict for reasons he may not even have understood. Here’s the most detailed excerpt about what young Danny had to endure:
When he arrived, Chen was at the bottom of the social hierarchy: a newcomer to his unit, a lowly private, still just a teenager, in a combat zone for the first time. And the only Chinese-American in his platoon. In a meeting with Chen’s parents on January 4, Army officials said that his superiors had considered him not fit enough when he arrived, and singled him out for excessive physical exercise: push-ups, flutter-kicks, sit-ups, sprints done while carrying a sandbag. Such punishments resemble the “smokings” that drill sergeants mete out at basic training to correct mistakes. But, in Chen’s case, it wasn’t long before this campaign of “corrective training” escalated into sheer brutality.
Members of this group allegedly harassed and humiliated Chen from almost the day he arrived at The Palace. They belittled him with racial slurs. They forced him to do push-ups with a mouthful of water, refusing to let him swallow or spit any out. And, on September 27, a sergeant allegedly yanked him out of bed and dragged him across about 50 yards of gravel toward a shower trailer as punishment for supposedly breaking the hot-water pump. He endured bruises and cuts on his back. Army officials told Chen’s family that although the leader of his platoon found out about this incident, he never reported it as he was required to.
One week later, on the morning of October 3, Chen was scheduled to report for guard duty at 7:30 a.m. But when he got to the guard tower, he realized he’d forgotten his helmet and didn’t have enough water. A superior sent him back to the trailer to get what he needed, then allegedly forced him to crawl, with all his equipment, across some 100 meters of gravel in order to return to the tower so he could start his shift. While he was on the ground, two other superiors pelted him with rocks. And once he reached the tower, a superior grabbed him by his body armor and dragged him up the steps.
When I first heard about this story, I literally sunk down on the floor in tears. I’m so saddened and enraged that in two-thousand-fucking-twelve this shit still happens in the army. It’s been a whole year since DADT’s been repealed! Servicemen and women are on the TV talking about how the army now respects them for the content of their character and the whole of their identities–and then, THIS?
Let’s get real, people. Discrimination and hazing still happen. Not just in college frat houses, but in America, in Afghanistan, in the barracks our nation’s defenders inhabit. And it’s going to keep happening until people speak out against this bullshit. (One of these people is Esther Choi, who last month campaigned for people of color and other marginalized people to refuse enlisting in the army until hazing and hate crime responses were reformed. After reaching out to the Occupy Wall Street movement to get them involved in the cause, she posted this critique on Racialicious.com in which she denounced OWS for–surprise, surprise–co-opting the causes of POCs and thereby marginalizing and oppressing them.)
Back to Danny. I shared his story on Facebook and one of my friends, Francis, shot me a DM about it. Here’s what he said:
I kinda felt the same way as him. I was the only Asian guy in my platoon, and better yet, I was the only Asian guy in my whole company (company is 4 platoons). But yeah, I kept my mouth shut when I was made fun of. I was trained on the weekends so I would get stronger, and whoever made fun of me, eventually I got stronger than them. Then I winked at them…haha. Marines think they’re so tough. But I made great friends with them as well.
Although I’m quite certain that he glossed over any actual events of discrimination to tell me a pleasant story, I don’t doubt his truth. Though he may have never seen combat, Francis is one of my heroes. He’s got double the strength of some privileged asshat: he’s Army Strong and Oppressed Strong. And I’m glad there are people like him serving the country. But, most people aren’t doubly strong. They’ve got strength, yes, but it’s regular human. They’re naive enough to believe that the army is a place where they can feel like they belong, can make a difference, can be stronger than they’ve ever been. They just don’t realize that “in part because of low enrollment and in part because of enduring prejudice, the military is especially tough on its Asian soldiers.”
If Danny had known, maybe he wouldn’t have enlisted. Or maybe he did know and enlisted anyway. Either way, Danny is one of my heroes too–because he dared to be that one “gook,” “chink,” dragon lady” who stood apart and wouldn’t go home. It’s more than most of us would. Better a dragon lady among soldiers than eight nasty little boys among an embattled community.
The image above is an oldie but a goodie, and I’m really feelin’ it today, at the close of the first week of the new year. I’ve got a couple of dozen resolutions for 2012 written down, but the biggest one on my list is to embody at every opportunity the sentiment expressed in this poster. It’s to empower myself and others to make noise, speak our truths without fear or care of repercussions, to make statements that make people listen.
I think there’s a little girl with a chili bowl haircut in all of us, yellow or not. And she’s saying, “Stop looking at my helmet-head! Listen to my damn message!!!” I’m going to relinquish some control to my inner-angry-Asian-girl-child this year. What about you?
Even Tila Tequlia says shit that makes sense sometimes.
Get ready, cuz I’m about to say some shit. Not just any old kind of shit, “Asian girl shit.” And you will shit your pants, laughing so hard at me, demonstrating just how materialistic, ditzy, Asian and girly I am for your viewing pleasure. What’s that? You don’t think that would be funny? Me neither. Wait, what? You DO think it would be funny? Well, fair enough.
There are tons of people who think that the original viral video Shit Girls Say is funny. Just ask half the people on my Facebook feed or the numerous YouTube users who left surprisingly (and unsurprisingly) positive comments. And I’m trying my hardest to understand why. I’ve concluded that the people who find the video side-splittingly hilare are those who easily identify with the sentiments expressed, either because they’ve said those exact words themselves or because they know women who fit whatever stereotype is being parodied at any given moment. I can tell you, though, that I have both said some of the shit in the video and know women who’ve said said shit, and I still do not find it funny.
Mainly, I’m puzzled at the intent of the video. On the most basic level, it’s simply a stream of disconnected thoughts, themes and conversation snippets that are meant to evoke recognition and bemusement. Also, it’s a dude in drag attempting some sort of observation. On the whole, it seems to paint a rather depressing picture of womanhood. There are moments where we women are depicted as stupid, lazy, nagging, grating, bored, annoyed, forgetful, interested, disinterested, friendly (or possibly falsely friendly), Valley-Girlish, and even passive-aggressive. But there are no moments of strength, power, intelligence or enlightenment–which I realize wouldn’t be funny.
I suppose what we’re laughing at is a stereotype that, like all stereotypes, rings true in some instances. Consider Chris Rock on Black people, Margaret Cho on Koreans and Asians or George Lopez on Latinos. There is one noticeable difference, however, between Shit Girls Say and the acts of the aforementioned comedians. When comedians mock their own race or nationality or gender or sexual orientation, they do so with a self-awareness and self-deprecation that makes for more nuanced social commentary. They’re able to create a space wherein by laughing at themselves we are able to laugh along with them, to recognize our own prejudices, confront them and transcend them.
Shit Girls Say is a far cry from social commentary or satire. In failing to establish a point to the mockery, it fails to illuminate and to initiate change. In failing to be completely offensive, it offends us women who expect more than the ridicule, the pointing and laughing, and the constantly lurking feeling that whenever we express any emotion that isn’t Rainbows and Happiness we are being unfairly judged.
I’ll go ahead and say it: Shit Girls Say is the weakest of weak-ass weak sauce. You can do better.
To my amazement, a few other videos* have come out that pile on the stereotyping. For instance this:
Hai, Shit Asian Girls Say. I dare say this remake is worse than the original. Or maybe I’m simply reacting to it the way that any Asian woman who doesn’t wear Prada!Gucci!Chanel! on a daily basis would. To be honest, there are a lot more references to materialism and body image in this video than in the original. (“Can I have your credit card, please?” “Let’s go shopping!” “Prada Prada Prada!” “Gucci Gucci Gucci!” “Does this make me look fat?”)
I’ll admit that I cracked a smile at “I wish this could go to my boobs instead of my butt!” And there was a faint glimmer of satisfaction at the end when she beat her boyfriend’s ass for choosing Chun Li instead of her at 3 a.m. BUT, I just about punched my computer screen when they brought out the Bad Driver Asian Lady (1:32). For your information, I’m a DAMN good parallel parker. And several times I wanted to scream “You are not fat!” and “You can go shopping on your own!” Because I tell myself that, and I go shopping on my own, with my own money.
But, see. This is what happens when we watch these videos. Sometimes we find ourselves chuckling; other times we want to rebuke, scorn and lecture our fellow women. We focus so hard on what the Asian girl is doing that we forget there’s a guy there. We forget there’s a patriarchy there, which might explain and inform the stereotype.
We focus so much on what we shouldn’t be and do and say that we forget to write our own stories and carve our own identities. We forget that we Asian girls can make videos too. We can. And when we do, they’ll be a helluva lot funnier than this.
The Glee cast covered Fun.'s "We Are Young,"but not in the episode this pic is taken from.
I am no poet. Nor do I claim to have any insight into the minds and hearts of artists and their intentions. I’m just a girl, listening to a song, feeling slightly creeped out, parsing some pronouns and vainly searching for an explanation.
The other day I heard “We Are Young” by Fun. (intentional period), featuring Janelle Monae, and had a few questions. I submit to you the first verse and chorus:
Girl give me a second I,
I need to get my story straight
My friends are in the bathroom getting higher than the Empire State
My lover she’s waiting for me just across the bar
My seat’s been taken by some sunglasses asking bout a scar, and
I know I gave it to you months ago
I know you’re trying to forget
But between the drinks and subtle things
The holes in my apologies, you know
I’m trying hard to take it back
So if by the time the bar closes
And you feel like falling down
I’ll carry you home
Tonight
We are young
So let’s set the world on fire
We can burn brighter than the sun
(x2)
If you don’t have any questions after reading/hearing that, then either you’re goddamn omnipotent or the ambiguousness of the lyrics doesn’t niggle at your frontal lobe they way it does mine. Let’s take it line by line.
Girl give me a second I,
I need to get my story straight
Firstly, what story does he need to get straight? And to whom is he telling it? The next line tells me his friends are getting high in the bathroom. So, maybe he needs to get it straight for his parents, the cops, some other authority figure who’d punish him if they found out about any illegal substances? OK, I’m with you so far.
My lover she’s waiting for me just across the bar
My seat’s been taken by some sunglasses asking ’bout a scar
Sunglasses is probably symbolic of some high-as-a-kite dude, tryna get his mack on. The scar? I hope to hell it’s a symbolic scar and not an actual one. Otherwise, this is possibly alluding to domestic violence….? Symbolic! I’m going with symbolic.
I know I gave it to you months ago
I know you’re trying to forget
But between the drinks and subtle things
The holes in my apologies, you know
I’m trying hard to take it back
There they are–those pesky ambiguous objective pronouns. Two of them! What is “it”? Is it referring to the literal or symbolic scar? Is it referring to sex? A bad lay? Or is it something more nonconsensual?
Why does he have to apologize? Why holes? Why is she trying to forget? Does it take months to forget a bad lay? (It takes me approximately 30 seconds. Unless, y’know, I was really into him and expected a lot more….in which case, a full minute?) Why is this song allowing my mind to venture into brutal territory?
I’ve made up my mind. “It” is definitely a symbolic scar. He scarred her by taking on a crap date, during which they ate bad oysters that later made them sick for a full day–during finals week, no less!–and watched the movie Taken (or Hostel), completely ruining her summer plans to backpack across Europe for fear of being tortured, killed or sold into sex trafficking. Right??
Maybe I’m projecting. Maybe I’m just trying to explain some lyrics that don’t make complete sense to me in a way that doesn’t border on creepy.
Oh, yeah. There’s also the music video. Of a girl. Sitting in a bed. Cutting an apple. Enjoying it a bit too much? And shaking her head from side to side (symbolic “No”?) three times.
Make of it what you will. (The head shaking starts at 2:28.)
Many commenters of the video have posited that the video/song is about losing your innocence/virginity. That may be closer to the truth than anything I’ve said above.
I just want to know whether it was consensual or not. Then maybe I can start having Fun.
As everyone has heard by now, North Korea’s “dear leader” met his, pardon the pun, Il-fated demise over the weekend. Today the Wall Street Journal posted a piece by Margaret Cho on her 30 Rock parody of Kim Jong Il, in which she muses on the challenges of playing the Nationalistic Man of Mystery.
She explains that after scouring YouTube, ABC, BBC and TMZ and finding no recorded media of her object of ridicule, she simply “decided to base my portrayal of him on my mother.” The irony of basing her portrayal of a man who is ultimately responsible for tearing her family (and so many others’ families) apart on her mother is not lost on Cho. Here’s an excerpt (emphasis added):
North Korea is an unsolved mystery. I once had family there, and now the family ties, cut for so long because of the separation of the Koreas into north and south, have healed over into non-existence. Perhaps there is a scar there, an infinitesimal tear in some great grandmother’s conscience, but I don’t even know her. No one in my family remembers her name, so it’s like she never existed. We from the south and we from the north now are separate and at best, indifferent. At worst, hateful in the terrible way of civil war and the brutal animosity of a country divided is capable of. Do we despise ourselves more when we are ourselves?
If you haven’t seen the 30 Rock episode in which Cho portrays Kim (“Everything Sunny All the Time Always”), then Hulu/Netflix/YouTube that shit, already! Check out the clip below for a preview.